Ralph was still alive in 1871 Probably died before 1880 when wife Ann remarried.
The Ralph that died in Chorlton in 1864 was 5.
Ralph did not die in Chorlton, Manchester in 1865, aged 31. That is another Ralph, an organist from Hulme.
The Ralph that died in Ashton-under-Lyne in 1866 was 17.
Ralph Mather died Little Bolton 1881 aged 52, or 1902, aged 62. This may be him as Ralph b.1840-1889 Aspull and b.1842-1872 Brindle/Withnell and 1845 Leigh are only other close matches.
General Notes
In 1851, Ralph (15), born Entwistle was at Edge Fold, Entwistle with parents John and Jane.
12 Nov 1856, Ralph Mather (21) Labourer, Bachelor of Studs Farm, Longworth, son of John Mather a weaver married Ann Mayoh (16), a dresser of Foulds, daughter of John Mayoh a labourer at Belmont St Paul. (Their son Ralph also married here in 1881).
In 1861, Ralph and Ann (25 & 20) were living at Top 'oth Croft, Lower Darwen with their son Ralph (4mo). His father John (52), sister Rachel (21), brother John (17) and nephew William (1) were with them.
In 1876 Ralph was a Draper at 36 Halliwell Road, Bolton
The Ralph that died in Manchester in 1865 aged 31 is another, and wife Ann was still married in 1871, but it appears that Ann had left Ralph for Thomas Kay. In 1871 Ann was head, still married with her younger children while son Ralph was with her parents.
There is no UK death of Ralph with a good age match, so he may have left the country.
Occupation Details
From 1861 Ralph's occupation was Labourer in Darwen.3
Ralph and Ann were married in a religious ceremony on November 12th, 1856 in Belmont by James Dawson and witnessed by James Lingard & James Longworth.5
Marriage/Union Notes
Marriage: 12 Nov 1856 St Peter, Belmont, Lancashire, England Ralph Mather - (X), 21, Labourer, Bachelor, Studs Farm, Longworth Ann Mayoh - (X), 16, Dresser, Spinster, Foulds Groom's Father: John Mather, Weaver Bride's Father: John Mayoh, Labourer Witness: James Lingard, (X); James Longworth Married by Banns by: James Dawson Incumbent Register: Marriages 1851 - 1979, Page 31, Entry 62 Source: Original Register at St Peter Belmont
Aged 10 in 1871, born longworth (with grandparents) Aged 20 in 1881, born Darwen Aged 30 in 1891, born Darwen Aged 38 in 1901, born Bolton (not with wife)
Lancashire Birth indexes for the years: 1860 MATHER Ralph MAYOH Darwen Blackburn D/33/40
Although registered at Darwen (so Blackburn not Bolton), the other births (before and after) were at Sharples.
MATHER, RALPH MAYOH GRO Reference: 1860 D Quarter in BLACKBURN Volume 08E Page 348
He died at the age of 65 in September 1925 in Stockport.8
Death Notes
Emma was a Widow in 1911
Therre are no matching deaths for Ralph before 1911. However there are matching deaths for both Ralph and Emma in Stockport in 1925 & 1926.
Deaths Sep 1925 (>99%) Mather Ralph 64 Stockport 8a, 76