According to oral history Lancelot felt so badly-treated by his father, he was convinced that John considered him "the black sheep of the family." Lancelot told his children that once when he was a boy, his father sent him out in freezing weather to check on the cattle. Lancelot had just sat down in the snow to rest when a neighbor saw him. Fearing the boy would freeze to death, the neighbor yelled at Lancelot and scared him so that he jumped up and ran home. Later, the neighbor had sharp words with John Coffland for sending his boy out in such bad weather.